“Easy access, anonymity, and affordability have made Internet porn attractive,
but few realize the dangers”.
These three ‘ions’ are necessary for every man to know in details. Don’t be taken aback by the wit with which I wield my pen on Male reproductive organ related issues. I believe both men and women should understand their body especially their reproductive organs as ignorant of it has caused a lot of problems in our already corrupt society. In my previous episode, we looked into the causes of “MALE morning erection” This simply is a continuation of men and their health issues. Pornography is a topic most people dread to talk about, yet it has eaten deep into the core of our existence. As pleasurable as this act of online pornography is, it destroys all we value and live for. Here’s a story of Justice and what his life became after he caught his father watching pornography.
HE CAUGHT HIS FATHER WATCHING PORNOGRAPHY.
“Justice was 15 years old when I discovered my father’s porn habit. It was after midnight, a school night; The blue-green glow of his computer monitor spilled from the crack beneath his door. I let myself in, assuming he was working, and instead found him feverishly masturbating to the images on the screen. It’s a moment as ingrained in my mind as I imagine the porn is in his: He was perched, naked, in his green swivel chair, which he had covered with one of my mom’s best bath towels. He looked angry. Shortly afterward, my mom filed for divorce, and I branded pornography as my father’s—or perhaps all men’s—evil vice. I couldn’t understand his desire for the naked pretzel women, contorting into yogalike poses on his computer screen. Or why his porn habit—which, my mother later told me, spanned my parents’ entire 20-year marriage—seemed to be worth more to him than his family.
I’ve seen my father only a handful of times since he left. And I’ve watched hard-core porn just once, in a dorm room. But years later, a scene from the film I watched with friends—a woman bent over, her pointy breasts swinging like pendulums—surfaced in my dreams. It reignited the fear I first felt after the encounter with my father: Does porn somehow invade the deepest recesses of men’s minds? Of women’s? And if so, does every man carry a mental cache of unerasable erotic images. Sometimes at my workplace, the images of big breasted women with big unimaginable buttocks flood my mind and gets me horny all day till I rush to my toilet in the office to Jack off and relieve my sexual tensions. I stopped watching porn 2 years ago, but has the image of those sexy big titted girls out of my mind….hell no.”
– One of the easiest ways to spontaneously arouse a man’s sexual appetite is to expose him to materials which have sexual contents
– Pornographic materials negatively affect the sexual ability of men on bed
– Some men who are frequently exposed to obscene materials could ejaculate easily right in front of their women before the actual sexual intercourse.
INTERNET PORNOGRAPHY…looming danger in our society.
The level at which internet pornography has taken over the society portends great danger. The sexual ability of the young men is at stake. This is because exposure to these lurid materials affect their performance on bed. Reports have it that being exposed to obscene images and lurid films either on a computer system or a smart phone or any other types of device affects a good number of youths. They make young men unable to become sexually excited by ordinary sexual encounter with women in the real world.
Another angle to the dangerous trend of pornography is that a person could easily become addicted. He may see no reasons to enjoy the actual penile penetration with his woman. This is because pornographic materials have substituted his woman since he also gets satisfaction through these means.
There have been various true life stories of some women complaining bitterly that their husbands do watch pornography like the story of Justice. Likewise, as a result of passion for lurid images and obscene motion pictures, impotence and weak ejaculation and other erectile dysfunctions set in easily. These diseases are no longer associated with middle-aged men or due to poor health, but they are affecting young men based on exposure to internet pornography.
In a finding published in Psychology Today, it was stated in there that the problem (of poor sexual ability to perform on bed by men) is now so common that men in their 20s consider their inability to perform as normal. The title of the research was titled: ‘Porn-induced sexual dysfunction is a growing problem.’
The report further established that the loss of libido by men in 30 years early is as a result of continuous over-stimulation of dopamine.
Dopamine is a chemical substance in the body. It is responsible and functions as the neuron-transmitter that activates the body’s reaction to sexual pleasure, when someone repeatedly views pornography from any source (either TV set or computer).
What happens to an avid porn-watcher is that when the dopamine spikes, his brain loses its ability to respond to dopamine signals, meaning the porn-user demands increasingly extreme experiences to become sexually aroused.The problem of pornography addiction among Christian men between the ages of 18-30 years of age is particularly striking:
• 77% look at pornography at least monthly;
• 36% view pornography at least daily;
• 32% admit being addicted to pornography (and another 12% think they may be).
The statistics for middle-aged Christian men (ages 31-49) are no less disturbing:
• 77% looked at pornography while at work in the past 3 months;
• 64% view pornography at least monthly; and
• 18% admit being addicted to pornography (and another 8% think they may be).
Even married Christian men are falling prey to pornography and extra-marital sexual affairs at alarming rates:
• 55% look at pornography at least monthly; and
• 35% had an extra-marital sexual affair while married.
Expert’s advice and doing away with pornography
According to Marina Robinson, an expert on sexual performance, she said:
“Today’s users (of pornography) can force its (dopamine) release by watching porn in multiple windows, searching endlessly, fast-forwarding to the bits they find hottest, switching to live sex chat, viewing constant novelty, firing up their mirror neurons with video action and cam-to-cam, or escalating to extreme genres and anxiety-producing material.
“When they (porn-users), after watching pornography try to have actual intercourse and cannot, they understandably panic. Porn-users are amazed that heavy porn use can affect them adversely, that no one told them it could affect them.”
Robinson concluded by stating that men who suffer low sexual performance due to porn viewing, could recover over a period of months by giving their brain a chance to reboot by shunning pornography completely.
PORNOGRAPHY MAKES YOU AVOID INTIMACY.
“In our culture, we have a narrow understanding of intimacy as sexual
intercourse. But it’s bigger than that. It’s really about people connecting with one another—you need your father to tell you you’re a good son, your brother to tell you he loves you, your daughters to look up to you.” When the connection is missing or incomplete, intimacy—sexual or otherwise—becomes something to be avoided.
The more typical response by most men is…they use porn as a surrogate for real intimacy. The logic: If you can’t find a partner to perform the act yourself, watch somebody who can. In fact, a 2011 British study found that men who view porn may crave intimacy and closeness more than nonusers do, suggesting that porn isn’t just an escape from connection but could also be part of the search for it.
People think porn is about sex. It’s not; it’s about intimacy. The guy who can’t find a girlfriend or better still get married, starts looking at porn, searching for intimacy. He hasn’t found it. He’s found the erotic payoff of orgasm. It’s a counterfeit form of intimacy.
Arousal is an essential part of sexual intimacy—but only if it’s coupled with some form of interpersonal connection. “Sexual intimacy has two components: One is sensual; the other is contextual. For a man, intimacy begins with sex—he’s attracted to a woman’s body, say, so he pursues her. For women, the entry point to intimacy is contextual: “Who is this guy? What’s the nature of this relationship?” As married couple’s bond strengthens, their definition of intimacy becomes more parallel: The man comes to value context (“I want her because she’s my girlfriend”), and the woman increasingly emphasizes eroticism. “It’s when the two are enmeshed that you have a deep, sexually intimate relationship.
WOMEN AND PORNOGRAPHY
The distinction isn’t so much anatomy. Unlike men, women use porn primarily as a way to express, explore, or reclaim their sexuality; it’s a tool to mentally connect with their sexual selves or partners, says Rupp. “Porn is serving a different purpose in women than men. Women tend to use it in an adventurous way or for the relational component.”
One British website found that 68 percent of people who searched for “Fifty Shades” looked for lingerie sales afterward. (Clearly they’d be showing that sexy lace off for somebody or wear some breast or cleavage revealing outfit.) Most women involved in pornography enjoyed the coy of gradually seducing a man. Licking of lips, use of coquettish baby voice on phones, little moanings in the middle of conversations, etc.
When women use explicit materials, they choose to call it erotica. When men and women look at materials together, they tend to look at erotica. “But when men look at materials alone, they look at pornography.”
The definition of “erotica”—a term coined to separate the sensual from the smutty—The standard once widely used to distinguish erotica—”nonviolent, nondegrading, consensual sex”—from pornography is defunct. Now, say Australian researchers, the distinction is intimacy. Pornography downplays interpersonal connection, but erotica depends on it. Be it erotica or pornography, both are arousing and have the same effect….increases the urge for sex. Just the way men masturbate, women equally touch themselves after watching some of this so called “erotica”. My question is….who are we deceiving?
You may manage to avoid getting caught, or even getting ripped off, but addiction is an even harder bullet to dodge. Greg Gutfeld explains that online porn has attracted a surprising number of married, professional men.” Most of them have never had a problem with porn before,” he says. “They certainly never felt like prisoners of sexual compulsion. Until now. For some, curiosity has progressed to obsession. They don’t mean to like electronic sex so much, but they do. And the need grows. They require more and more to keep from getting bored.” Internet pornography has earned itself a reputation for being the crack cocaine of sexual addiction. “It works so quickly and it’s so instantly intense,” says Dr. Robert Weiss of the Sexual Recovery Institute . “We’re seeing a whole population of clients who have never had a history with the problem, but for the first time, they’re beginning one particular sexual activity and getting hooked.”
The experience of sexual arousal can be adrenalized and intense when viewing pornography, and like any ‘high’ your body will crave another hit. The result is a pattern of addiction and escalation. Soft-core pictures of women in lingerie will soon become boring and you will seek full nudity, and as that loses novelty you will look for something more enticing. Dr. Victor Cline, of the University of Utah, has studied this escalation and reports that it proceeds according to four steps. 8
Addiction: You keep coming back to porn. It becomes a regular part of your life. You’re hooked and can’t quit.
Escalation: You start to look for more graphic pornography. You start using porn that disgusted you earlier, but is now enticing to you.
Desensitization: You begin feeling numb towards the images you see. Even the most graphic porn is no longer arousing. You become desperate to feel the same thrill again, but you can’t find it.
Acting out sexually: This is the point that you make a critical jump and start acting out the images you have seen and rehearsed in your mind.
A lot of men have lost their sexuality to pornography. They prefer masturbating to making love to the wife of their youth. Even when they finally succumb to sex so as to avoid being accused of negligence, the think about the electronic sex on their computer screens more than their wife. This is what I chose to call “cheating in the mind”.The trust of some people have been betrayed just because they discovered their partner fancy electronic sex. Some men feel inferior once they discover their wives prefer looking at men with very big penis more than their small sized penis. Insecurities, zero self confidence all because of pornography. Beloveth, it’s not worth it. If you are hooked, get yourself unhooked. If you can’t, approach the Lord with boldness for surely, He loves you so much and you will obtain GraceX and Mercy.